Saturday, 14 April 2012

Delayed response... seeking legal advice were they?

15:26 HER:  Just so u no the children shall not b here Monday and from now on we stick 2 the set days if u can't do that the u will miss seeing them that week
16:18 HIM:  You have ignored the issue of Derek, has he been spoken to?  Why should his conduct affect my access to my children or theirs to me? 

"I'll kick you in a minute"

Friday 13th April
09:16 HIM:  You wouldn't know, I don't even think you were there.  He certainly did, ask him if the words: Derek "I'll kick you in a minute" H "No" Derek "I will, and my kick's a lot harder than yours, believe me" bring back any recollection?  If you are still lying to each other then I'll help you with the evidence.  Actions speak louder than texts I believe.

Derek's retreat..... (panic setting in??)

Thursday 12th April
22:49 HER:  Why r u saying all this rubbish to Derek he has been more of a father 2 your 2 children in the 21/2 year than u ever have he would never ever hurt them what game r u playing???
23:04 HIM:  He contacted me and started slinging the judgements around, not the other way round.  Derek threatened to kick H in anger, he did it, it is not rubbish.  If he can't handle the truth then that's not my problem.  As Derek himself said, actions speak louder than texts.
23:06 HER:  Derek has never ever said that 2 H were r u coming from u r not right in the head 

Oh hello Derek.... (Her latest 'victim' steps in...)

Wednesday 11th April
21:44 DEREK:  I feel I need to say something as things are starting to go to far.  Your pathetic text messages are getting a joke and are very personal if you put as much effort into your kids as you did your texts you may get somewhere.  I expect a change.
23:35 HIM:   Frankly Derek, I really don't care what you expect.  I too would like a happy life for all.  You are being deceived by a master of the art.  I have absolutely nothing against you at all but I do advise you to entertain the possibility that there is a lot that you are not being told.  I put no efforts into text messages whatsoever,  the polar opposite of my position with my children.  This is an unnecessarily bitter and silly situation, on that we both agree.  Until you are in the same position as a father, do not even try to judge me, you have no idea. I sincerely hope that you never do have any idea either as I would not wish that upon you.  I would also like a change but I expect nothing of the sort.
Thursday 12th April
08:22 DEREK:  Unfortunately actions speak louder than text messages and for that reason you have been judged poorly.  Even your family have given up on you so please less of the bullshit and yes I expect a change.
22:00 HIM:  You know, it sounds like you are threatening Derek, please elaborate?   Whilst you are standing on your pseudo high ground, proclaiming parental excellence with no experience of being a father please explain to me why you threatened to kick my six year old girl?  A lot seems to be said about me, now answer that question for me and then reflect upon yourself for a while.......... Oh, and I'll tell you what I expect, I expect an answer to my question and for you never to threaten my children with violence again, just incase things aren't clear for you.

Tuesday, 10 April 2012

Some kind of crazy.....!

HER: H said that she dosnt want 2 go 2 your house 2night
HIM: Re your question of the 15th, I will do my best to be as close to 5 as I can, I have to travel for 2hrs to get home so it may not be bang on.
HIM:  Re the shower, the washing machine is broken and we are hand washing clothes in the bath.  How often do you send them here dirty, I'm not running a Spa service but always make sure they are cleaned, save for exceptional circumstances such as this.
HIM:  Re H not wanting to come.  Only last week you said that it was wrong to break a court order, wrong to stop visits and it would be the last time they came separately.  It feels like I'm texting two different people here, such is the lack of continuity??  How many conflicting opinions do you have?
     **both children collected**
HER:  Is H ok? If not Derek said he'll come and get her .if I find out she's been treated badly 2night she will not b coming back the relevant people no this.  I am also changing my number so u can not contact me any more
HIM:  Of course H is OK.  That last message was crazy??  I'm still reeling from the insanity of it.  Firstly, Derek?? Who is he?  I have been in a consistent and stable relationship with my wife for several years now and you won't even entertain the mention of her name, let alone her collecting the children.  in that time your multiple relationships have been off and on and you expect to be able to offer one of them upon my doorstep of a Tuesday evening as some sort of Sir Gallahad, based on your hypocrisy, no chance.  H has never been treated badly with us, just disciplined in line with her actions, actions that should be of no surprise to us based on your example.  How was white horse hill this weekend?  I hear Ordenance Survey have their best cartographer re writing the map of the British Isles as we speak, out of the country.....?
HIM:  That brings me to the relevant people, is that some sort of veiled threat towards me?  Lastly, changing your number, that really is the worst suggestion I have heard from a mother who has a responsibility for shared care with a father.  How are we supposed to contact you if the children have a need to??  How would we make arrangements for collections etc?  That on really needs a re think.  Just set the right examples for the kids and perhaps they will take a good message from that and that will aid their upbringing.
HER:  U really need 2 get over the fact that I left u,  u r still so bitter it's really not healthy as 4 my string of relationships I've had 2 relationships one of which I have been with 4 2 1/2 years and we r engaged move on and try 2 b a good father now as I have said over and over do not contact me again.
HIM:  :-) keep taking the drugs and please accepts my thanks for the laughter from which I am only just gathering breath.  The best thing you ever did was leave me as I no longer have to endure you.  My thanks for your act of kindness.  All I care about is that the kids have a good upbringing.  Has no-one told you that raising children is not a competition?  Have a good evening.
HER:  Oh I will as I don't have 2 enjour u
HIM:  :-) 

Monday, 9 April 2012

He smells!

HER: When you have the kids on the 16th can u come at 5 as i have 2 work?
HER: Why had P not had a shower all weekend? He smells! That is disgraceful

Friday, 6 April 2012

Caught out lying AGAIN...

HER:  This will b the one and only time that I will allow P 2 go 2 yours on his own u do this again u won't have eigher u can't chose between your children what do u think this is doing 2 H's head?  Her dad dosent want her!  I'll say again sine them over 2 me
HER:  P says he dosnt want to go 2 yours sorry!
HIM:  How many times have you chosen that I can have only one of them, or neither.  I'm just trying to teach H that she can't just behave as she has to P and anyone else that she so chooses.  someone needs to set her an example.  I'll come to collect P and if he doesn't want to come then he can tell me that.
       **Phone call from P** 
HIM:   P has just said that you were never going to be out of the country this weekend, what a disgraceful thing to lie and teach your children to lie like that.
HER:  I am actually thanks
HIM:  So how are you going to a party at your mothers then?  More worryingly, why has P just told me that it's "another lie"?  Role model?
HER:  I don't have 2 tell u any thing and I'm not going 2 my mums u can talk role model now stop texting 

Wednesday, 4 April 2012

Wednesday 4th April 2012

HIM: P didn't tell you that when you had the incident with H stealing the £20, he saw it in her room and she threatened to beat him up and break his neck if he told you. Her behaviour is totally out of control, I have told her that she will not be coming over this weekend as I will not reward that kind of foul behaviour. P could do with a break from her. She needs to know that she can't behave like that anywhere. I won't ignore it just because it didn't happen here. I will collect P only on Friday.
HER: Sorry u can't pick and choose wends I'm away so u will have 2 have her arrangements r in place and can't b changed u will have 2 have this wend and I find it unbelievable that u think it's ok to turn around on a Wednesday morning and say she's not going 2 yours I am not in the country sorry!
HIM: I called you several weeks ago and you refused to discuss this, saying you would deal with it in your house. Now you can, this weekend. You also continuously tell me that I am a second rate parent and should give you sole custody. Make your mind up. You have also denied me access with less than an hours notice before. You have set all the precedents here so don't call me to order on my actions. Just in case we are unclear, H is with you this weekend so plan accordingly.
HER: No she is not I am not here its in a court order that she is with u. If your such a good father why didn't you give P his inhaler 2day that u wouldn't give him back?
HIM: it's sat on his desk, if he didn't take it then the blame lies there. You should teach a 9 year old to take some responsibility for themselves. There is no debate over H this weekend by the way. How many times have you ignored the court order to suit you? By the way the court order is that you should make them available, not that I am ordered to have them. You are such a hypocrite. All I am trying to do is manage H's behaviour responsibly. She is out of control. There will be no further replies as I need to work now.
HER: I shall b going 2 the police just so u no as u r unfit